Erectile dysfunction is affecting relationships all over the country, but recent research shows that sexual partners are reluctant to talk about the issue.  And although most men and women admit to not being sexually satisfied, your Des Moines urologist Dr. Zafar finds that most couples will wait more than six months before discussing the condition with their partner.

The most dominant reason for this lack of communication between sexual partners appears to be embarrassment.  This awkwardness felt by both partners prevents any discussion that could possibly reduce the tension and lead to getting help.  And although this is a relatively common condition, people are not discussing the problem with their partner or their Des Moines urologist.

Another reason to discuss your erectile dysfunction with your urologist is that ED can also be a symptom of other problems, so even if it isn’t causing problems in your relationship, it’s worth checking with your Des Moines urologist, Dr. Zafar.


Following are some tips for helping you discuss ED with your partner.

Find a relaxed way to approach the issue.  If you feel hesitant about starting the conversation with your partner, spend some time by yourself rehearsing your opening and then choose a time and place that feels comfortable.

Be open and caring. If you’ve begun avoiding sexual intimacy for fear of not getting an erection, your partner may begin to think you no longer find them attractive. Feelings get hurt and couples begin to feel less intimate.

Read up on the problem.  There are plenty of web sites and books that offer valuable advice on how to overcome erection problems. Along with providing information, they provide a language to communicate for couples who don’t normally discuss sex.

Don’t have sex for a little while.  Your Des Moines urologist recommends taking a break from sex while you and your partner focus on emotional intimacy.

Find creative ways to be sexual.  In the routine of a long-term relationship, many couples get into a rut and they only use one or two positions. They rush through foreplay, especially when people are very busy with the other aspects of their lives, there’s a tendency to rush to the finish line.

Seek outside helpTalking to your Des Moines urologist Dr. Zafar about erectile dysfunction is essential because he can rule out health problems associated with erection difficulties, such as heart disease or diabetes and possibly recommend an erectile dysfunction medication.

If you or your partner are experiencing ED in Des Moines, call our office today!